Where singles over 40 meet
There are many places to go for advice on dating, we wanted to give you some of our
advice base on our experience gained over the last 27 years.
This may not be the run-of-the-mill advice you'll get from Dr. Phil or other relationship celebrities,
but it is advice we think you would do well to follow.
Tip #1 - Stay Local – You Can't Cuddle With Someone 3,000 Miles Away
Sure long distance relationships may seem adventurous and exciting, but unfortunately they seldom work.
Why? Because it's easy for people to put up a front or a "mask" for short periods of time.
When you meet someone who lives a long way from you, they are often act different then who they truly are during the limited times they can spend talking to you or seeing you in person.
It's a shame, but it is often hard to find out what they are truly about because the long distance relationship often serves for some as an escape. In fact, many people really put forward an alter ego when dating someone long-distance because it's not hard to keep up the disguise for short periods of time.
Also be aware that many people in relationships cheat and try to connect with someone who lives across the country where it would be hard for their spouse to find out.
Tip #2 – Find Someone With Similar Relationship Goals
Perhaps the most common problem encountering singles today is being connected with people who have different relationship goals.
In fact, we see it as perhaps the biggest unknown issue singles face today.
Just because two people want to date doesn't mean they want the same thing in a relationship.
If you would like a relationship that could ultimately lead to marriage, meeting someone with no interest in marriage will only
cause heartache in the end.
Sure you can have a lot in common and truly enjoy spending time together,
but when the day comes to make a commitment they just don't have it in their goals and they run for the hills.
If you truly want a relationship, don't fall for the trap into thinking that all dating sites attract people that want relationships.
The truth is the biggest and most successful online sites are built to attract casual daters.
Tip #3 - Beware of Masks - Most People Put Their Best Foot Forward
When someone first meets you – their natural inclination is to be on their best behavior because they want you to like them. They often guess what you want to hear and portray themselves as the perfect person for you.
We often refer to this best foot forward phenomenon as the "Me too syndrome."
Oh you like that, yeah "me too." You play tennis, yeah "me too." Oh you go to church, yeah "me too."
You go home and tell your friends, "wow I might have met the one. We are so compatible."
Whoops ... Then the mask comes down and you get to find out what they are truly about.
Unfortunately many people promise us the moon but deliver us dirt.
The mask someone wears might be perfect for you, but their true personality is just dead wrong for you in regards to having a meaningful relationship.
It's very hard to determine compatibility when you first meet, which is why dealing with a matchmaker that gets to know about the people you are meeting can help you from getting into relationships you should have never started in the first place.
